“Can you love someone who did bad things?”
If you are a woman in this country, then it is very likely that you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted at some point in your life. It’s part of our culture. And it has been going on for a very long time. But finally, it looks like the climate is changing. Women are finding the courage to speak out in large numbers. And, as a country, we are finally saying, “Enough!” This behavior is no longer acceptable.
But as more and more women are coming forward with their stories we’re finding out how bad this problem really is. It’s so widespread that it is inevitable that we will find out that men we respect and look up to – even men that we love – have abused their power.
Sarah Silverman addressed this very issue this week when she gave a heart-felt emotional statement about her friend and fellow comedian Louis CK. She said that she is “very angry” about what CK did to his victims and about the culture that enabled it. But she said she’s “also sad, because he’s my friend.”
Speaking directly to the camera Silverman explained on her show, I love you America, that she is struggling with how to feel about all of this.
“I’ve of course been asked to comment, and in full honesty I really, I really really really, don’t want to,” Sarah said. “I wish I could sit this one out. But … if it’s mentionable, it’s manageable. So I’m going to address the elephant masturbating in the room.”
“One of my best friends of over 25 years, Louis CK, masturbated in front of women. He wielded his power with women in fucked up ways, sometimes to the point where they left comedy entirely.”
“I could couch this with heartwarming stories of our friendship and what a great dad he is, but that’s totally irrelevant, isn’t it? Yes, it is. It’s a real mind fuck because I love Louis, but Louis did these things. Both of those statements are true, so I just keep asking myself, can you love someone who did bad things? Can you still love them?”
Silverman made it clear that, while she loves her friend, she knows that he must be held to account.
“I’m still processing all this shit … the only people that matter right now are the victims. They are victims. And they’re victims because of something he did.”
Then she said what so many of us are feeling, especially following the accusations against Senator Al Franken.
“So I hope it’s ok if I am at once very angry for the women he wronged and the culture that enabled it, but also sad, because he’s my friend.”
“I believe with all my heart that this moment in time is essential. It’s vital that people are held accountable for their actions no matter who they are. We need to be better. We will be better. I can’t fucking wait to be better.”